Having a disability can be very hard to deal with. You're different, and everyone can see. You might be pulled down by your handicap in the things that you love to do. Torn from your dreams by the cruel harsh reality. It's difficult. You might be very proud and you might want to be as independent as you can be. But you don't have to do it all alone.
There is a lot of help for you coming from all directions. Your friends, strangers, the medical world, all waiting to help you. At first it might feel awkward, accepting their help, especially if you are a strong willed, spirited person. However, there is no reason to make your life harder than it has to be. The world won't be less proud of you when you've accepted the help of others. Everyone helps someone in their lives, though maybe not as obviously as helping someone with a handicap. Yet, we all help each other. You don't have to prove that you can do everything by yourself, because life is a team sport! A one way street won't get you home!
Help is there for you, take it!
Monday, October 29, 2007
Accept Help
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An inspirational blog Maartje. I'm AB myself but went through my entire school life with two disabled friends.
One suffered from cerebral palsy, and as a result couldn't write so he carried a typewriter around school. I can still hear it "clack clack clack" in my thoughts! He also had speech problems, so he was incomprehensible to a stranger but perfectly understandable to us all. His speech and demeanor seemed terribly agressive but it didn't take much to realise he had no control over how he sounded. I remember he used to carry some postcards around which he'd give to anyone who he had trouble with, explaining what cerebral palsy was, and finishing with "I might sound odd but I'm just like you inside". I've always remembered that. He never asked for help but always accepted any help he was given.
The other was very hard going. She had spina bifida and at various times was either in leg calipers or a wheelchair / crutches. But she was so difficult! Our school was on four floors and there was no disabled access above the ground floor, but to my knowledge she never let anyone help her upstairs even though with crutches it was so difficult. And you know, we loved her because deep down she was such a strong personality. But she needed help, and I wish she'd have let us be a friend offering help with dignity, rather than just shouting at us.
I think you'll understand what I'm getting at here. It can be hard for an able bodied person to understand why helping a disabled person is often resented. We often help other able bodied people too - just with different things!
Thanks for a great blog.
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